Non-Vegan or Anti-Vegan, That is the Crux

To vegans:

People often accuse us of being nasty or judgmental towards non-vegans, turning them off from even attempting to be vegan in their not wanting to be associated with such hateful, vicious people. After all, if that’s how being vegan makes one feel, all angry and venomous, then they want nothing to do with it, would rather remain happy eating bacon and burgers with all the normal well-adjusted people. That’s how the story goes anyways. But it’s a crock load of nonsense, like all other anti-vegan brainwashing.

I treat non-vegans with respect and politeness, same as they treat me; but I treat anti-vegans with disdain or no regard at all because that’s what they deserve, at the very least.

A distinction that should be obvious

As with legal and illegal immigration, there is a huge difference between non-vegans and anti-vegans. Still, a more middle-ground non-vegan may have anti-vegan views developed by learning from media and elsewhere that vegans are to be despised and pitied for our “stupidity and lack of nutrition,” but those are the more neutral and reachable sorts of non-vegans, as they don’t have a vested interest in some sort of animal product industry, or they’re not overly emotionally charged with regard to what they like to eat. They are willing to listen to the other side of the story.

The anti-vegans, however, who actually deserve much worse than the worst vegans have to offer, are those venomously anti-vegan, obsessed individuals who often seem to make it their life’s mission to destroy veganism and for “humanity” to remain existing in slaughterhouse-based “civilizations.” They already know the vegan side of the story and they cannot tolerate it. These rabid anti-vegans want no vegans in the world, they often tell us to kill ourselves and other such hateful heckling; they’re basically just frothing with hatred for all things vegan. Those are the people many vegans are “bashing” or otherwise being “aggressively judgmental” about. The difference between non- and anti- is clear, although muddied up and obscured expertly by the usual suspects.

Cartoon by Zach Weinersmith 2008

That’s not to say some vegans aren’t annoyingly priggish and pushy at times, but they’ve got their reasons, are rightfully upset or angry. Consider how no one would accuse anti-pedophilia activists of being priggish and pushy, except for pedos, that is. If you’ve a problem with comparing animal slaughter to child molestation or other violent crimes, then you need to examine your real reasons for that reaction…get fully honest with yourself. Everyone knows that those ruthless/violent towards animals are 99% the ones who will treat people likewise as soon as the opportunity arises. Please realize what you are nurturing by embracing such speciesism.

How to deal?

So, when critics of vegans are tone-policing us to make us feel bad and wrong for speaking up, for treating decent people like shit and being counterproductive, destroying our cause, realize what’s going on there. It’s all lies based in more lies with a foundation of subhuman cruelty. Think of your own lives and how you treat family and others based in their respect for you and treatment of you; remember how you are not this self-righteous scourge whom everyone dreads running into for fear of your attacking their plates of food and screaming at them, etc.. Or if people do dread you, it’s about something else, not your non-use of animal products. But it’s often about their own guilt and shame which they, not you, have brought to light simply due to you’re statement, “I’m vegan.”

Case in point: I have a neighbor who I only mentioned to once that I’m vegan as a hint, because she’s been giving me holiday gifts with animal products which I’ve had to donate elsewhere, and I didn’t want that anymore. No, I didn’t tell her I’ve donated her gifts or in any way mention them…I’ve only thanked her for them in the past. So recently, when I ran into her carrying a plate of food from the barbecue area, she actually tried to hide it from me. I could only say a friendly hello and be perplexed and keep on walking. We’re both very mature women and this seems like such childish behavior. But that’s what happens to people when this particular “nerve” gets struck in them, just from the simplest mention of someone being vegan.

Now, to the tone-policing vegan basher out there, the above incident would be further proof of vegans being self-righteous pricks and “no wonder everyone hates us” and all that nonsense, all based in the strange ”I’m guilty and you’re bad for making me feel this” reaction of the triggered meat lover, based in my doing nothing at all inappropriate or in any way impolite. I simply didn’t want to get any more non-vegan gift items. By the way, last Christmas, her idea of vegan was still milk chocolate and other animal products. So there you go…I attributed it to her husband buying the gifts and not knowing any better. Off to the homeless center the unwanted items went. Sigh.

So, if you as a vegan have been letting yourself feel put down and guilty for simply existing and not being silent about your ethical concerns and your grief for the animals, try to not let that happen anymore. Try to make clear out there the difference between non- and anti-vegans and whenever necessary, don’t let the latter get away with the usual deceitful tactics. Realize what’s going on and that you’re not to blame. You’re not destroying any cause by fighting fire with fire (as in “ammo” not blazes) at times and you’re not responsible for people “eating a hamburger right now” (and a 2nd one for extra spite!) or any of the other nonsense people will pull out of their nether regions. A lot of it is gaslighting, which I wrote about in an earlier article.

In closing, simply don’t ever let yourself feel like a wrongdoer for grieving and fighting to end the torturous lives and ruthless killing of these helpless, highly sensitive beings:

How Porn Harms You and Yours – 12 Points

Introduction:

Following are only my personal opinions, dealing only with porn targeting adult heterosexual sex because I have no personal knowledge of “LGBT” experiences, although surely there is some common ground. And child pornography and sexual abuse is a whole other, even darker, albeit related issue.

This also only refers to porn of the sexual “freak show” variety as opposed to simple nudity or far more tasteful erotic material which embarrasses no one, although the physical perfection of others can foster envy in those not so fortunate. And envy is the root of all hate, so there’s that problem.

But think of the difference this way: Who would be ashamed to have others find nude pictures of them from the past, the nude model for “artistic” pleasures, or the smutty spread-eagled model who’ll apparently do just about anything with any random person? I think the difference between respectful, friendly erotic material and destructive pornography is pretty clear.

1) What porn is presented as:

Adult fun times (even when pre-teen-looking schoolgirls are used). Whoopee! Porn’s a real hoot, nothing to be judgy about, don’t be a cock blocker! It’s an arousal tool, as ancient and natural as anything, so what’s all the fuss? It’s just us guys wanting to “bang” the hot chicks. (Um, explain “granny porn” then, etc. Right, never mind.)

Jimmy and Larry Flynt holding gold shovels at the ground breaking ceremony of Hustler Hollywood in Monroe Ohio in 2000.

2) What porn is:

A way for unprincipled people to make tons of money by selling explicit, deviant sexual material to a vast number of people, largely men, to feed, and further whet, the addictive hunger brought on by incessant biological urges. Addicted men often spend themselves into the poorhouse (or into homelessness and/or prison) buying porn material and patronizing strippers and prostitutes. Our prisons are filled with porn addicts, who where that way well before incarceration.

Porn is not friendly or loving, it far more emphasizes the mean, seedy side of sex…the side no one wants for their children to be involved in as they grow up. But the side so many people enjoy the use of other people’s grown (or adolescent) children in.

3) Unreality – The freak-show aspect:

People in porn are depicted as sex freaks who’ll do anything with just about anyone, the more bizarre the better. Giant rock-hard penises that never fail are the rule of the day, and women look at them in amazement or fear and a naughty sort of reverence…they simply must have them, in every way, and pain be damned. Women, especially, are shown enjoying things that are actually repulsive, frightening, degrading, painful, and/or endangering to them in real life. And more and more, women (and even men) in real life are expected to do and enjoy whatever is popular in porn, no matter how bizarre or repugnant.

Why the shady freak-show aspect? Ask the pornographers, they’ll tell you: Shock sells. It’s all about sales. Getting a substantial chunk of your needed money into their fat bank accounts.

4) The Backstory – Why the anger regarding sex?

People are biologically programmed to need sex during their reproductive years and even beyond. But they don’t like it, really, as it makes them foolish and “freaky” and they don’t understand this “need” to be that way. Thus, intercourse is used commonly as a vile insult: f*** you, f***face, f***ing this and that, the middle finger raised as a phallic symbol of rage and degradation, female genitalia or the “c” word being a most vile insult, etc.

People don’t actually like behaving the way sex causes them to behave, considering it a schizophrenic other personality that comes out when aroused. “Get your freak on” is a common phrase used to describe sexual activity.

Sex feels so good though, orgasm is pure ecstasy, greatest experience on Earth, when in that frame of mind anyway, so people crave it often, regularly, especially when looking at enticing people, naked or not. So people are torn between their two sides: the moaning, enraptured, writhing nasty sex freak…the embarrassment, versus the side they respect: the wholesome, decent, modest, studious, child-presentable person who’s certainly no naked and splayed-out-for-all-to-see butt-in-the-air embarrassment to anyone.

Interestingly, the “walk of shame” is said to be done by single women, after nights of debauchery when sneaking back home to clean up, get some sleep, and get presentable again. While married women don’t generally do the shame walk because they’re already home, mostly (those not out cheating anyhow).

So most people need sex, but they also resent it, and each other for the temptations. Why do you have to go and stir up these urges in me, I hate myself, I hate you, yet we call it making love. It’s a total mind f***. Thus, the anger with sex.

But when two people really do love each other (the forever kind) and are loyal, that sexual anger is lesser or non-existent, and sex can be a friendly and loving activity. Hopefully that’s the vast majority in real life. But that doesn’t sell like the freaky, mean stuff does. So you’ll rarely if ever see loving couples in big-selling porn. Porn capitalizes on the sordid side, the nasty, angry acts between those depicted pretty much as strangers.

5) Objectification – Seeing human beings as things and dirty jokes:

People become “it” rather than human beings with emotions or any value outside of “doability.”

Say you’re a man who respects and loves your daughter dearly, yet some strange man on the street hoots and hollers obscenities and graphic descriptions of what he’d do to her if he got the chance, and with that hateful gleam in his beady eyes. Would you like it? Or would you want to knock him out? Or more than want to?

Porn turns people like your own mother/sister/daughter/etc. (or the male counterparts) into nothing more than objects and dirty joke material, in the minds of crass, hateful people. Of which there are more than people like to acknowledge. The endless array of graphic, freaky sexual material only feeds into that crassness and hatred, and multiplies it. To put it mildly, this is not good for humanity.

6) More on Anger – The frustration:

There’s the (mostly male) fantasy of being able to “bang” any and every female he finds “doable,” right then and there, and leave her dazed, crumpled, but satiated, in some seedy restroom or other vile place, never to see her again; that is, unless her impressive beauty merits further contact. Maybe this one’s a keeper? Even marriage material? But no, you’re not quite her type in real life, so she’s just a nasty slut like all the rest.

For most men, that hot dream girl is never a reality. He can, however, rent a woman who’ll do most anything with anyone, for a price. Or he can go for an “ugly” woman who’ll try to make up for her unattractiveness by her willingness to go along and loudly enjoy any and every bizarre practice. Maybe he can settle for that.

All these ugly games. For a simple orgasm. For the need to love and be loved. The frustration and resulting anger at the other sex intensifies, and we get the man-hating brand of “feminism” and its counteraction: “men’s rights activism.” Everyone obsessed with how the “other” spoiled innocence and life for them. It’s all a nasty, vicious and complicated cycle. Only with humans could sex become so indescribably weird and hate-filled.

Why is that? one might ask. Well, back to the animal slaughterhouse and all the rest of our violent psychopathy and denials of such. People are largely damaged egotists living lies.

7) Perversion – The addiction and being jaded:

What’s shocking sells, then the shock dies down and more and different shocks are needed. Someone “just like one’s mom/sister/daughter” is shown enjoying degrading, dangerous activities simply for the sake of a showy orgasm for public viewing, which should instead be a private thing between two people, without all that risky behavior. WTF? the viewer thinks, is this what girls/women are really like? My MOM did these sorts of things to create me? Well, no, it’s not likely she did; it’s likely she simply made love with your father and that neither of them required outlandish, insane acts or complete degradation to achieve orgasms. But porn’s another story.

In porn, the old shocks become commonplace and “everyone’s already doing them,” so the common becomes boring and new shocks must always be invented and depicted, keeping that addiction strong. Gotta sell that material after all! Same as the effects of recreational drugs wearing off and more and more being needed to get the same high, until the overdose finally kills you. Well, there’s a sort of soul death among the porn addicted.

Porn can depict hordes of mean old men raping some captive terrified schoolgirl who ends up enjoying it all; “dignified” women are shown looking totally degraded with faces full of dribbling semen, and so forth, on and on it goes. The porn addict needs ever new material, and that appetite is insatiable. He loves to get other men hooked as well…brothers in the big mind f***. And there are ever more women damaged or desperate enough to do “anything” for the “easy” money in the business.

8) Young Minds – How porn influences them:

I won’t delve into this too much because, frankly, it’s too deep and disturbing. It’s quite the visceral topic that defies the intellect. Porn influences children the same way any meaningful first experiences influence young minds, and sexual experience is a most potent form of this. Think of everything porn depicts and then think of the effect it has on young, impressionable minds and emotions. It is often terrifying. It can compel young kids to act out sexually towards inappropriate others when they’re in no way ready for it. Child molesters use porn in that way, to sexualize kids who are way too young and to take advantage and use them. This all feeds into the confusion and anger surrounding sex and into the sickness in our civilization.

9) Rape – How porn often leads to it:

Those really hot girls in the videos all do it, they’re easily controlled by men and they love it all, are game for anything…and they squeal with delight. Why not you, you’re not so hot; and what, I’m not good enough for YOU? I’LL SHOW YOU, BITCH!

Further, see all of the above.

10) Murder – How porn often leads to it:

Research “sexual sadists and murder.” And note that 100% of sexual sadists grew up abusing/killing helpless innocent animals. Linked here is a good, thorough article, but be warned – dark and disturbing content, not for children: http://theviolenceofpornography.blogspot.in/2016/05/violent-pornography-normalises-and.html Further, see all of the above.

11) The Addiction – How to get it out of your life:

If you have the will, just do it, kick the habit, cold turkey, in whatever manner keeps the destructive stuff out of your life and no longer desired. Respect yourself and other good people. If you don’t have the will, there’s nothing I can say to that…and you will continue to hate and ridicule people like me for wanting to spoil your good times. Okay, I already know what you think of me. The question is: What do you think of yourself, and the “anything goes” pornographers and the people they use, including yourself? Honestly.

12) The Danger – How to deal with porn’s influence in society:

I wish I had something besides the following to write here, but I just don’t. First, simply love and respect life. Second, I try to be respectable and kind and stay out of harm’s way and keep those I love out of harm’s way. Any other positive suggestions from readers as to how to deal with this  would be appreciated.

Judgmental Anti-Judgmentalism in the Plant-Based Cult

People's popular notion of vegans

People’s popular notion of vegans

A prolific cult has attached itself to veganism like a giant sucking leech, condemning ethical veganism and promoting an anorexic/orthorexic, fanatically low-fat diet based on starch, or entirely fruit, raw, whatever. The word “fat” is spit out with utter contempt, so to be a member of this cult you need to get proficient at that, their main identifier.

In this highly tolerant cult, liberal politics are openly preached as if “no conservatives need apply.” Virtuous, extreme thinness and wide thigh gaps abound, exercise mania rules the day, bubbliness beams from gaunt little faces, toothpick arms flail, and aggressive normalcy oozes from loudly babbling mouths. They sometimes live in fancy big houses and brag about how admirable and wonderfully normal their lives, their selves and their perfect families are.

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People partying on a boat by MarkScottAustinTX Flickr (representing party people, not vegans)

Naked Gardening Day

Naked Gardening Day (by PinstripedFanny)

They pity or make fun of anyone lacking their advantages. They especially pity-hate the “overweight” and assume that those people consume shameful quantities of vegetable & animal fats, otherwise they would not be fatties. Yet, being judgmental is a huge taboo in this jet-setter community…so by “judgmental” they mean judging anything differently than they do.

I often see them gossiping, gleefully condemning even slightly chubby people, political opposites and animal-advocate vegans as scourges and destructive morons. That, they claim, is their being appealing and welcoming to not-yet-vegans. Along with, of course, their embracing of meat eating and such as just another life choice, nothing morally wrong with it…nothing at all! (Except that it’s “fattening.”)

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Humane slaughter on the small family farm

If you’re fawning and apologetic enough to the wiry plant-based for your slovenly, less than reedy self, and properly admiring, you too can join their big happy club. Because vegan no longer has a definition, you see, it’s a big, happy, selectively indefinable group of slim party people who only reject fatties, those obsessed with animal suffering, and the politically incorrect (ew, outcasts!). For other than those undesirable groups, vegan now means a carelessly shrugged, “whatever.” 😃

ironyThat pragmatism brings SUCCESS! to these self-proclaimed effective vegans…they get the numbers that way, they say, while preachy, bad vegans FAIL by scaring folks away by insisting that vegan means, well, vegan, as in radical, as in no animal foods, products, etc. …nothing that supports animal use/abuse/killing, to the best of our abilities in the world as it is. But we’re wrong, you see, vegan is strictly a diet, mainly a weight loss diet, and when you’re done losing weight, or whatever, you can go back to animal products if they call out to you…and still be vegan if you wanna be! You don’t have to be  honest and true like them…

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Indian actors & ethical vegans, Vidyut Jammwal & Adah Sharma

Photo source: http://www.bollywoodhungama.com/news/parties-and-events/vidyut-jammwal-adah-sharma-promote-commando-2-facebooks-office/

I speak as a former lapsed vegan who wanted to continue calling myself vegan when I wasn’t, but would say “mostly vegan” if asked. I was sporadically over the years eating dairy, eggs and occasional fish just because it was “easier” and I was isolated away from other vegans, more able to fool myself into believing the cage-free or humane myths. I was also frightened by clever “vegan health disaster” stories put out by meat industry shills. Realizing that honesty and true definitions really matter (and the animals even more so)…thanks to “preachy” online vegans no less…are what brought me back to stay in early 2009. This is precisely the problem “pragmatic vegans” have with ethical vegans, why they hate us so much. They don’t want vegans to stay with it. They evidently have another agenda?

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Happy village slaughter, no big corporate demons here.

We animal-advocates have non-vegan loved ones and love them no less, but would love them even more than ever if they got with us. We’re basically decent people, not these venomous monsters we’re depicted as (by actual venomous people). We don’t go around tying people to railroad tracks or whatever “vegan villains” do. We understand “almost vegan” and such; we appreciate when people are trying and transitioning, and less animal consumption is always better. Still, we do want everyone to be with us…but as vegans for the animals, not KFCegans or unconcerned plant-based dieters. (I have a lot of gall assuming that I speak for other vegans, but it’s just going by my experiences.)

Early Jim Jones, famous suicide cult leader, selling pet monkeye

Early Jim Jones, famous suicide cult leader, selling pet monkeys

Now with this pragmatic anti-vegan vegan cult, being vegan “to the best of our abilities” has been contorted to mean that if eating big macs on occasion is the best you can do, then you’re still vegan if you only eat big macs a couple of times a month, or whatever, that’s just a random example. Now, that sounds like a meat industry agenda to me.

See, to be a proper, effective vegan activist you need to preach about dangers and pitfalls of “giving up a whole, vital category of food!” and how most people cannot do this safely, so they need to be forgiven when they go back to cheeseburgers and bacon & eggs (the real goal). Ideally, grass fed, free range, humanely killed! But ideals aren’t fun all the time, so off to Bill’s Burger Barn you go…you gotta live after all, shucks. Now, this is how you grow veganism!

egg-headWell, that is of course how you water down veganism, attempt to make it meaningless, frightening, cultish, bizarre, dangerous, and full of loopholes, where animal farming & slaughter suddenly are under its welcoming umbrella. That’s in fact how you fight against veganism from within. Like a disease. Then we have their favorite Pied Piper, Temple Grandin, at the helm with all that “humane” slaughter gushiness people so love to get behind. It’s a hell of a lot of cleverness…I’ll give it that.

But wait, there’s a “vaccine” against the disease, this “too hip & healthy to dwell on animal abuse” and/or this “effective pragmatic” plant-based dieting: Love for innocent Wind People Watch Tough Face Outdoor Woman Modellife, self-respect, moral/ethical strength, honesty, and a highly developed deception filter. And there are no debilitating side effects with this self-immunization. To top it all off, it’s free! Rewarding even.

NOTES: 1) Images are public domain royalty-free or credited where required. 2) I mistakenly posted a pic of flighty EX-vegan John Quinlan (he looked silly anyways lol), so replaced it with legitimate, ethical vegans, Vidyut & Adah.